By giving the reins of governing to your partner, you risk not getting your hidden wishes satisfied. There is nobody to blame besides you. You should sometimes completely surrender to the process and then your dreams will be implemented. But if you're used to being passive, it will be difficult for you to play another role. On the other hand, you should start one day. It may well be so that if you try to be a leader in intimate relationships, you'll open new sources of pleasure.More »